The Internet and Your Children:
A Smart Parenting Workshop

http://www.slis.indiana.edu/umikerse/Parents/parentingworkshop.html

Presented by:
Jean Umiker-Sebeok, Ph.D.
School of Library and Information Science
Indiana University-Bloomington
umikerse@indiana.edu

For:
Indianapolis-Marion County Public Library

Schedule:
Saturday, October 11, 1997

Saturday, November 15, 1997

Table of Contents


THE INTERNET AS AN INFORMATION COMMONS

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THE INFORMATION COMMONS
AND SMART PARENTING

Before you try these links, please note that the speed with which you will be able to access these sites will vary depending on the equipment you use to connect to the Internet (see "Getting Connected"). Images and music are especially slow to access if you are using a slow modem. If you are having trouble with long waits, you will know why some people call the WWW the "World Wide Wait."

Another thing to remember is that Web sites (especially the small ones done by individuals) are constantly changing, moving from one address to another, and sometimes disappearing altogether. This adds to both the excitement and the annoyance of using the WWW. We are trying to keep this site up-to-date so that its links are working. Please let us know if you find some problems and we'll make the necessary corrections!


Family web sites to start with:

Disney.com. The Web Site for Families
http://www.disney.com
This site is as polished as you would expect a Disney site to be. It provides good examples of many the ways that Web sites can foster interaction between people. Check out their BOARDS (Bulletin Boards where people can post messages about selected topics), CHATS (Chat Rooms where you can chat with others who are logged in at the site when you are), and E-MAIL (which you can use to communicate one-on-one with the Disney site managers and other site users). The site changes frequently to reflect the current season or holiday. Their "Family" section includes activities and informative articles, which you can even e-mail directly to a friend! The "Kids" section offers games based on recent Disney films, online storybooks, and various files to download, including coloring pages, sound files, and more.

The Kwanzaa Playground
http://www.arts.ohio-state.edu/ArtEducation/kplayground/welcome.html
Not all sites are created by companies like Disney. This site is a good example of how the WWW can be used to organize and communicate about projects done by ordinary people who come together to produce wonderful things that benefit their local community. This site was created to explain and expand on the themes of the Kwanzaa Playground in Columbus, Ohio, which combines a sculpture garden, neighborhood playground, and education of neighborhood youths about their ethnic traditions and values. Visitors can learn about the artists who decorated the playground and view their art. Also available is information about the holiday of Kwanzaa and an elementary school art curriculum unit based on the park and its artwork.

The Family Surfboard
http://www.familysurf.com
This site uses the Internet to combine entertainment and education for the whole family. Features include a "Children's Internet Activity Center," the "KidsÍ Internet Soapbox," and lists of recommended links to other Web sites.

Easy Internet for Families
http://www.islandnet.com/~leschke/column.html
A nationally syndicated column written by Tia Leschke about great Web sites for families. The site includes all the links from previous columns (grouped by topic) and links to recommended shareware.

KidsHealth
http://www.kidshealth.org
Devoted to the health of children and teens, this site has interesting features for both parents and kids. Check out the health tip of the day, or the "How the Body Works" animations!

Cybertown
http://www.cybertown.com
A complete virtual community on the Web, with its own schools, mall, entertainment complex, and much more. You can move into Cybertown by getting your own (free) colony apartment. Much of the site is available in 3-D virtual reality.

Educational.net Parents and Kids
http://www.educational.net/parents.htm
The site contains a list of links for parents and kids, arranged by topic. While some are just "cool sites," several deal with safety and family issues.

Internet Solutions
http://is.usmo.com/html/kids.shtml
Another grouping of links related to children and education. Most are sponsored by large media outlets, government agencies, or corporations.

Web Broadcasting System
http://wbs.net/webchat3.so?hub_Arts.x=16&hub_Arts.y=17
This site is a hub for hundreds of "chat rooms." All you have to do is choose your special interest, be it movies or a music group, and click "Go" and you'll find yourself chatting with like-minded fans around the world!

Steve Savitsky's Interesting Places For Kids
http://www.crc.ricoh.com/people/steve/kids.html
Steve did the hard work for a lot of parents when he created this list of links for his 12-year-old daughter, Katy. Many of the sites listed are award-winners, and they are categorized into groups like art and literature, museums and exhibits, and science and math. Steve pays particular attention to security issues, which will be appreciated by many parents.

K-12 Electronic Guide for African Resources on the Internet
http://www.sas.upenn.edu/African_Studies/K-12/menu_EduBBS.html
A list of links to educational Web resources dealing with African history and cultures. This site provides another good example of how the WWW can help your family research topics for homework or family education projects.

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Sites for Parents:

ParentSoup
http://www.parentsoup.com/
You'll find everything from teething to college loans on this parenting site. Special sections group information for expecting parents, parents of babies, parents of toddlers, and parents of school-age children, and parents of teens. Chat groups with other parents and parenting experts are also available.

Parents Place.Com
http://www.parentsplace.com/
An online community with an informative site that covers health issues, holiday and activity ideas, recipes, and more. Members have access to 30 daily chat sessions and several topical bulletin boards.

Parent Time
http://parenttime.com
You can get age-specific information on this site, which tailors itself to the age of your child in years, months, or trimesters! Online chat sessions with health and parenting experts are a regular feature.

Starbright - Parents Corner (sick kids)
http://www.starbright.org/people/parents.html
Links to Web resources on various diseases, summer camps and hospitals for sick children, and personal stories of parents dealing with a child's critical illness are available here.

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Sites for Kids:

Yahooligans. The Web Guide for Kids
http://www.yahooligans.com/
This is the kid-sized version of Yahoo, one of the Web's most popular search engines. You can use Yahooligans to either search for a particular topic or browse through topically-arranged lists of links. Designed for kids ages 7 to 12.

Virtually React - Online Magazine for Teens
http://www.react.com/
This online "Webzine" changes weekly and contains articles on music and movies, a poll of the week, and daily jokes.

Ika's Stories - The Fairy Tales of Ika Bremer
http://www.ika.com/stories
Narrated by "Bla-bla," the friendly frog, these online tales are available in English, Spanish, and German. Most of the stories, like "Tress," have beautiful illustrations. Try "The Wacky Planets" for an interactive riddle of a tale.

B.J. Pinchbeck's Homework Helper
http://tristate.pgh.net/~pinch13
"Beege" and his dad have collected links to over 415 helpful sites for young scholars. The links are arranged by school subject, such as English or Foreign Language.

Connect Times KidSpace
http://www.connect-time.com/kid.html
Kids can contribute their own artwork, pictures, stories, and messages to this site and share them with the world. Cool links are also available.

Internet Kids Discussions
http://www.KIDLINK.org
KIDLINK is an international, grass-roots effort to build global dialogue among young people ages 10 to 15. The site is available in seven different languages, including English, Spanish, and Japanese. Visitors can send e-mail to kids around the world or collaborate with them to work on projects.

Kids World
http://ite01.ite.net/kids.htm
A compilation of some of the best (and safest) links for kids. Topics include homework help, computers, entertainment, and sports.

Kids Com
http://www.kidscom.com/
A safety-conscious site for kids around the world. Symbols identify links that contain ads, and all meet safety standards. On this site, you can find a pen pal, chat with groups of other kids from around the world, or leave your mark on the "Graffitti Wall."

Channel1-Kids
http://www.channel1.com/Find/Webgate/kids.html
Links and more links! This page will link you to pages of links on music, movies, and other cool stuff.

Royal Tyrrell Musuem
http://tyrrell.magtech.ab.ca/
Explore this Canadian dinosaur museum online. You can view special online exhibits, take a virtual tour of the museum, or even download a virtual reality dinosaur!

Dinosauria
http://www.dinosauria.com
If you're into the nitty-gritty facts on dinosaurs (or need to do a report on them!), check out this site. The "Omnipedia" includes several dino-dictionaries, a pronunciation guide, and maps of ancient Earth. The "Dinosaur Picture Gallery" houses good quality photos of various fossils.

David's Dolphin and Whale Watching Site
http://neptune.atlantis-intl.com/dolphins
Ever wonder how a Killer Whale says "hello"? You can hear it for yourself on this site, which contains pictures and soundfiles of many species of dolphins and whales. David also thoughtfully provides links to other information-rich marine life sites.

Wacky Web Tales
http://www.hmco.com/school/tales/
Check out this site for hours of giggles! Just choose a story, plug in your own nouns, verbs, and friends' names, and out comes a wacky new tale! You can even write your own Wacky Web Tale for others to fill in.

Creative Wonders Games
http://www.cwonders.com/cwonders/f_games.html
Challenging games for kids of all ages can be played on this site. From "Global Trivia Challenge" to "Slam Dunk Drill," some of your favorite characters from books and TV guide you through the games. You need the Shockwave plug-in to play most of the games. Back to top


Listservs:


Listservs are electronic mailing lists that focus on different topics. Subscribers can receive e-mail messages from all the other subscribers or send a message to the entire list. There's a listserv out there for just about any interest, hobby, or profession you can think of! Here are a few to get you started:

BABIES@LISTS.IVILLAGE.COM
http://www.lsoft.com/scripts/wl.exe?SL1=BABIES&H=LISTS.IVILLAGE.COM
Babies mailing list

MOMSONLINE@LISTSERV.AOL.COM
http://www.lsoft.com/scripts/wl.exe?SL1=MOMSONLINE&H=LISTSERV.AOL.COM
Moms Online Main Mailing List

NETGIR-L@LISTSERV.AOL.COM
http://www.lsoft.com/scripts/wl.exe?SL1=NETGIR-L&H=LISTSERV.AOL.COM
The NetGirl Forum Newsletter

PARENTSPLACENEWS@LISTS.IVILL
http://www.lsoft.com/scripts/wl.exe?SL1=PARENTSPLACENEWS&H=LISTS.IVILLAGE.COM
ParentsPlaceNews - The weekly newsletter from ParentsPlace.com

PSNEWS@LISTSERV.AOL.COM
http://www.lsoft.com/scripts/wl.exe?SL1=PSNEWS&H=LISTSERV.AOL.COM
Parent Soup Newsletter

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SAFETY ON THE INTERNET

By expanding your children's horizons beyond the safety of the family, you suspect that there may be dangers that you want to protect them from - experiences for which they may not be prepared or that may have a negative impact on them. The Internet - like any public space which attracts a broad spectrum of humanity - draws its share of activities which are deemed by some to be inappropriate for children. Sites with the following kinds of material may be found on the Net:

There's plenty of undesirable content on the Internet, but parents may be somewhat reassured by the fact that much of the potentially offensive material still takes some effort to locate. Your child must actively go looking for it and spend a considerable amount of effort downloading and decoding it.

Guidelines for Internet Safety

While this description of some of the dangers of the Internet for children may have you reaching to unplug your computer, think again. The Internet isn't some evil empire. The dangers it poses are not too different from those one finds in many non-digital public spaces, and the methods you have chosen to protect your children to these threats can work equally well in cyberspace:

Cybersmarts are not a whole new frontier in parenting. They're just an extension of the common-sense things you've told your kids all along.

(David Plotnikoff: http://cgi.sjmercury.com/family/before.htm)

What are some technological and non-technological ways to help your children avoid those corners of the Internet which contain ideas and behavior that some parents would prefer that their children not encounter?

Know the difference between a place to play games, a place to chat or a place to get help with homework.

By supervising your children's Internet activity you will be prepared to answer any questions they may have when they find something controversial. You should be around enough that your children take your presence for granted.

Treat Internet activities as a partnership with your child.

The Net is a public place and should not be used as a baby sitter. You wouldn't just drop your child off in the middle of a big city and tell her to go have fun for a few hours. Identifying Internet exploration as a family activity is made easier by locating the computer in a family room of your home rather than in a private space, such as the child's bedroom.

Share your judgment, guidance, and perspective with them. Talk with your children about where they're going before there's a crisis or confrontation.

The only long-term answer is to educate your children about pornography, hate literature, etc., so that when they come across it, they'll know how to react. The only software you can be sure they'll be running is the stuff you install between their ears.

Stephen C. Steel, cited by Vince Distefano et al., Child Safety on the Internet. , 1997, p. 67)

It's never too early to start educating your child about the Internet. Perching your toddler on your knee for some minutes of cyber adventure can be a great bonding experience for parents and grandparents alike if there is good communication about the experience!

While you and your child explore the Internet together, raise the following questions about the sites you visit. Your child will gradually learn to be a discerning Internet user and she will be better able to separate good information and experiences from bad ones.

How to Critique Internet Sites

  1. What is the subject of this site? What is its purpose?
  2. Who is the intended audience?
  3. Is there anything at this site that is useful or informative?
  4. What is the information trying to tell me? Why?
  5. Does the information seem reliable?
  6. Do you disagree with any of the information being presented? Why or why not?
  7. How recent is the information?
  8. Who is the source? Is the material credited?
  9. Who sponsors this site?
  10. What image does the information convey to the user?
  11. How does this site compare with others that deal with the same subject matter?

(Vince Distefano et al., Child Safety on the Internet. Upper Saddle River NJ: Prentice Hall, 1997; 800-382-3419; http://www.classroom.net)

In addition to becoming a discerning Internet user, you want your child to be a wary one when it comes to using the Net to make contact with strangers. Gradually introduce your child to the following ideas, and make sure they know that these rules are as important to their safety as "Never talk to strangers":

Six Things Every Kid Should Know

  1. The Net is a public place, even though it's accessible from inside your home or school.

  2. Never give out identifying information - address, phone number, passwords, school name or location, or any other personal information. (Parents may consider using a pseudonym or "unlisting" their child's name if their service provider allows it.)

  3. Never agree to meet face-to-face with anyone you meet on-line, without first telling a parent or responsible adult. You're not under any obligation to speak to anyone or to answer any mail. (If a meeting is arranged, it should be in a public space, and parents should accompany their child.)

  4. Understand that people on-line may not be who they say they are. And that information on-line isn't necessarily factual just because it comes through a computer.

  5. If you encounter anything or anyone on-line that makes you uncomfortable, don't respond and tell your parents. (Parents should forward a copy of any harassing or threatening messages to their service provider and ask for their assistance.)

  6. Follow the golden rule in cyberspace: Just as you need not tolerate being treated unkindly, don't be unkind to others.

In this way, you are not depriving them of all Internet contact in your absence. It is a good idea to let your children help you define what these resources are, rather than doing it by yourself. Remember, if you make your children a partner in use of the Internet, they are more likely to exhibit responsible behavior. Software such as WebWhacker (http://www.ffg.com/whacker/) can help you download sites.

After you and your children have explored the Internet and developed some web-building skills, you can carry your partnership one step further and become producers of information as well as receivers. Create a family web site with sites the children love, easy email connections to friends, grandparents, neighbors, the public library, and other important people in your family's support network. Your children can also post their favorite artwork or poems for friends and family to admire, get a look at grandma's new flower garden, organize a neighborhood lemonade stand with friends, and in many other ways build sound and solid personal relationships. Here are a couple of examples of family home pages from among the thousands on the Web:

Keep abreast of who your child is communicating with on-line. There are technical ways of snooping on your child's on-line interactions, but, if you've been working as an open partnership all along, your children will know that you care and are interested, and why, which will allow you to use less draconian communication techniques.

This has become less of a problem since many common Internet Service Providers (ISP) now charge a basic monthly membership fee with unlimited on-line connections. However, check with your ISP about this and about the costs for storing the web sites that your family creates.

America Online: Master account holders can block access to instant messages, People Connection chat rooms (all rooms or just the more raucous member-created rooms), conference rooms and Usenet newsgroups (all groups, specific groups or groups containing certain words in their titles). Right now, there are no Web-browsing controls. A new set of controls that will allow access only to AOL children's areas is on the way. KEYWORD: Parental Controls.

CompuServe: To block access to a specific CompuServe forum, you must contact the operator of that area.

Prodigy: Master account holders can block access to all Usenet newsgroups, all Web sites, Prodigy chat rooms (all rooms or specific rooms) and Prodigy bulletin boards (all boards or individual boards). Prodigy also automatically blocks access to chat, newsgroups and the Web. A parent must choose to enroll a child's sub-account in those areas.

Work with your ISP about ways you or they can control children's access to objectionable materials. Also ask about their specific acceptable-use policy (AUP) or terms of service (TOS) agreement and how it protects younger customers.

The firms listed below make filtering software that works with direct Internet connections. All are available on the Web and are priced around $40-$50. These filters monitor the data stream coming into the computer and block it when children try to access objectionable Web addresses. Sites declared off-limits can be a pre-determined file prepared by the filtering service, a set of sites designated by parents or a mixture of both. Some also offer blocks on e-mail, newsgroups and file transfers:

SurfWatch. (1-800-458-6600)_comes free on a CDROM with the book, Child Safety on the Internet. (Upper Saddle River NJ: Prentice Hall, 1997 - 800-382-3419; http://www.classroom.net)

CYBERsitter, for Windows only. (1-800-388-2761).

Net Nanny. (1-800-340-7177).

Cyber Patrol. (1-800-828-2608).

Internet in a Box for Kids, currently available for Windows only, is a one-box Internet-access package designed for kids ages 8-14. It includes: a complete set of Internet software tools, FreeZone (an on-line "club" for children) and the SurfWatch filtering software noted above. Unlike other filtering packages, it will work only if you are on CompuServe's network. (1-800-557-9614).

And many more: See Child Safety on the Internet for a complete list.

Censorship and Legislation

The Internet is a global community created precisely to go around any and all attempts to control the flow of information. There's no way to have it policed to meet one standard for prurience. Even Web sites billed as "child-safe" may inadvertently contain links that eventually lead to objectionable material. As you can see, there are many ways in which you can manage your child's experience of the Internet and what comes into your house. These methods, plus your personal commitment and open communication with your child, will be far more effective than any legal initiative in assuring children's safety on the Net.

More Information About Internet Safety

Kids On-line: 150 Ways for Kids to Surf the Net for Fun and Information, by Marian Salzman and Robert Pondiscio (Avon Camelot paperback, $3.99). This book contains a good overview of the benefits and drawbacks of each of the major services. Bear in mind that with the Net scene evolving week-by-week, the comparisons may soon be out of date.

The Parents Place Web site is a mom-and-pop-run resource that includes links to The Computer Museum Guide to the Best Software for Kids, the National Parenting Center, and other related sites. You'll find parent-to-parent advice forums, freshly updated feature articles, book reviews and more.

The popular pamphlet Child Safety on the Information Superhighway, produced by the Interactive Services Association and the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, is available for free by calling the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children at (800) 843-5678. This pamphlet is also available at the Indianapolis-Marion County Public Libraries.

Also check out Child Safety on the Information Highway on the Web at: http://www.larrysworld.com.

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GROUP SUPPORT FOR NETWORKING AND SMART PARENTING

There are several types of groups which can help parents be smart cyberparents:

Community Networks

Community networks are public, usually volunteer computer networks designed to bring computing power to everyone in the community. These networks make it possible for parents to work with neighborhood groups, librarians, teachers, museums, churches, and other community organizations to build a networking environment which offers children and families a place to learn, play and communicate in an atmosphere of mutual respect, civic responsibility and sharing.

As more of our local institutions - libraries, schools, churches, museums, libraries, etc. - acquire on-line capabilities, there are new opportunities for parents to play an active role in developing local community networking which fosters a rich environment in which children can learn in an atmosphere of mutual respect, civic responsibility and caring. Here are some projects that might benefit your neighborhood:

These are only some of the things parents can do with local community network action. Here are some other ways people are using the Internet in their local communities:

Local community sites in Indiana:

Indiana's Official Web Site
http://www.state.in.us/

Map of Indiana Community Web Sites
http://www.ai.org/icna/ICNA/cnmap.html

Indianapolis Online
http://www.indianapolis.in.us/

Public Libraries

Most U.S. public libraries are dedicated to increasing Internet literacy, access, and safety. Check with your nearest public library about Internet classes and public access terminals.

Indianapolis Area Public Libraries
http://www.indianapolis.in.us/home/publib.htm


Internet Books Available at Branches of the Indianapolis-Marion County Public Library


CONTACT THE CREATOR OF THIS SITE

Hi. I'm the person who created this site for the participants of the Smart Parenting workshops. I'd like to hear your thoughts about the site. Please contact me at umikerse@indiana.edu or at the following address:

J. Umiker-Sebeok
School of Library and Information Science
Indiana University
Main Library 011
Bloomington, IN 47405

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Created October 1997